Tuesday, February 21, 2012

When Bridesmaid Meets Groomsman

When you think about how much your life can change in just moments, it really is incredible. This week is the 2 year anniversary of meeting my Mr. Spots. In really sappy fashion, I want to share a few special memories with you...

The famous question: How did you meet? Well, it all started with a wedding...

The bridesmaids and the groomsmen did not know each other. We were a group of strangers there to honor our best friends. The bride and groom really choose the best people to have in a bridal party. Not to toot our own horn, but we are all pretty awesome and we could not have gotten along better. No awkward moments for this group!

To sum it up, the groomsmen and bridesmaids bonded....quickly:

Sometimes people just click.... This was one of those times. (Even without the cocktails!) 

After the wedding I tracked down Bryan's phone number from the bride and decided to send him a friendly text. I can't explain to you why I needed to reach out to this groomsmen, but I did. I told my sister that weekend that he intrigued me. I guess that is the best way to describe it. He caught my attention--which is, believe it or not, hard to do.

It did not take long before we were talking all of the time. I was living in Richmond, Virginia at the time, he was in Roanoke, Virginia. Only a couple hours apart, we started innocently spending time together. It only took a few months before we decided we had something special. I remember being at his apartment one day, getting ready for our date, when my older sister texted me. She said, "Are you in love with him?" I realized, to a shock to myself, I was.

The day he told me he loved me for the first timse, I replied---so he claims--"Ooh! My car is dirty!" 
(Have you noticed I don't respond to serious situations in the predicted manner?)

In just 2 years, we have gone from strangers, to friends, to a casual couple, to a couple seriously involved with the addition of his 2 year old son, to a living-together couple, to the couple battling cancer, to the broken-up couple, to the couple who found what they needed from each other. Way to rush through our relationship, huh?

It has not been easy. Between dating long distance, learning to be a blended family, finding out about my cancer, balancing life + cancer + the new me,  nothing about our relationship has been easy, except for our feelings for each other. You never know how you are going to respond to a situation until you are forced to respond to it. We have had problems, we have had some pretty nasty fights, but like I have told others, we haven't had a guidebook. We never knew that we would face so many obstacles so early in our relationship. We have faced things in the last 2 years that some couples will (hopefully) never face. There were some dark moments. Still, we found our way back to each other...happily.

You never know when you will meet your one. However, I am a firm believer that when you meet him, you will know.

I knew.

(A big thank you to my one of my best friends, Rayna .Not only did I have the honor of being a part of your special day, I also made my own special memories. I will always treasure that weekend. It was, in one word, epic.)

1 comment:

Kisma said...

What a sweet story and I am so happy for you!
I found "the one" in high school 20 years ago and he too, is pretty awesome!!!